Just like a woman

"She takes just like a woman, yes, she does
She makes love just like a woman, yes, she does
And she aches just like a woman
But she breaks just like a little girl."

Bob Dylan (1966)

These lyrics from 'Just Like a Woman' define my desires so exactly that it scares me. Sometimes I like to think that Bob Dylan wrote this song with women like me in mind. And when I finally went to see him and he sang this song the fantastical part of me believed he was singing it to me as a reward for finally setting my kink free.

"She takes just like a woman"

I am a woman, a grown-up, an adult. I have a career and responsibilities. I may fantasise about regressing to a school girl or a small child or a young teen but that's not how I want to live my life. In a scene that I chose to partake in I love to be dominated, controlled and disciplined, but not in my real life.

I am an equal partner in life and you have to earn my trust and loyalty. I will take from friendships and relationships just like any woman would. I will give in return. I am not a dependent being.

"She makes love just like a woman"

I may fantasise about being taken advantage of and being abused. We may play a scene where I'm forced to partake in sexual acts, in the context of not consenting and not enjoying what is happening to me. But I have given my consent as a woman and I will enjoy it.

"And she aches just like a woman"

You will hurt me and cause me pain, with your canes and your straps and your whips. I will take as much as I can bear and be pushed to my limits. I will ache knowing this is what I want, what I've asked for, what I need.

"But she breaks just like a little girl"

And sometimes you will break me. I will cry in your arms and let everything around me disappear. You will have brought me to that place that I crave so badly. I will break just like a little girl but will emerge again, just like a woman...