Thursday, October 29


On a recent training course I was asked in advance to think about what empowerment was, situations where I was empowered and what it meant and felt like. At the course we then had a general discussion about what we had each come up with. The common themes were being in control, having freedom, getting what you want, achievement and fulfilment.

On the flip side, we were then asked to think about what dis-empowerment was and the feelings associated with that. I agreed with my group that it meant losing control, having no privileges, being restricted, answering to someone else. But while the rest of my colleagues were saying that made them feel frustrated, angry, unloved and sad I had to refrain from blurting out that it made me feel elated, adored, safe and special.

It just wasn't the right environment to explain that I've realised allowing myself to give up control to a trusted person is the most empowering decision I ever made!


Spanking Catharsis said...

Sometimes the difference between empowerment and disempowerment can be the difference between selfishness and selflessness.

PaulaK said...

Funny how you managed to 'innocently' slip a load of CP terminology into a work training event. Very naughty altogether ( or just like you, in other words)

Rebecca said...

I know exactly what you mean - feeling safe enough to trust someone else to take charge is actually a really nice/cared for feeling :-) there was a big discussion about subs the other day at work and my ears pricked up - sadly was just subsidiaries not the interesting sort! Xx

Paul said...

EmmaJane, that is one of the best things about being on the giving side of a power exchange.
Rebecca put it very well.
Warm hugs,

Abel1234 said...

Am I the only one to think that the thought that Emma Jane needs to be sent for 'training' is quite, well, hot really...