Sunday, May 31

Just like a woman

"She takes just like a woman, yes, she does
She makes love just like a woman, yes, she does
And she aches just like a woman
But she breaks just like a little girl."

Bob Dylan (1966)

These lyrics from 'Just Like a Woman' define my desires so exactly that it scares me. Sometimes I like to think that Bob Dylan wrote this song with women like me in mind. And when I finally went to see him and he sang this song the fantastical part of me believed he was singing it to me as a reward for finally setting my kink free.

"She takes just like a woman"

I am a woman, a grown-up, an adult. I have a career and responsibilities. I may fantasise about regressing to a school girl or a small child or a young teen but that's not how I want to live my life. In a scene that I chose to partake in I love to be dominated, controlled and disciplined, but not in my real life.

I am an equal partner in life and you have to earn my trust and loyalty. I will take from friendships and relationships just like any woman would. I will give in return. I am not a dependent being.

"She makes love just like a woman"

I may fantasise about being taken advantage of and being abused. We may play a scene where I'm forced to partake in sexual acts, in the context of not consenting and not enjoying what is happening to me. But I have given my consent as a woman and I will enjoy it.

"And she aches just like a woman"

You will hurt me and cause me pain, with your canes and your straps and your whips. I will take as much as I can bear and be pushed to my limits. I will ache knowing this is what I want, what I've asked for, what I need.

"But she breaks just like a little girl"

And sometimes you will break me. I will cry in your arms and let everything around me disappear. You will have brought me to that place that I crave so badly. I will break just like a little girl but will emerge again, just like a woman...


Ms. Cassandra (Sandy) Park said...

Wow, very nice piece. I've often identified with that Dylan song as well, and in exactly the same way.

Nice blog.


Kami Robertson said...

You have NO idea how hot it sounds :)

You are so sick, and so kinky...and oh god, it's just so damn hot :)

And sounds so familiar :)

EmmaJane said...

@Sandy, thanks for stopping by. Delighted to know I;m not the only one who identifies with this song :)

@Kami, LOL, so you like it then, my equally sick and kinky friend ;)

Rebecca said...

Ooooh fab lyrics :) I'm currently quite fond of some Katy Perry lyrics

I'm going down *in flames* for you
Baby you are the weapon I choose
These wounds are self inflicted
One more thing I'm addicted too

(yes, I am a bit of a populist :) )

EmmaJane said...

@Rebecca, cool, these are great! Oh and don't worry I'm a total populist myself. I love Lily Allen's latest too, which sums up vanilla sex for me:

"Oh your supposed to care,
But you never make me scream,
You never make me scream"

Hee, hee

Caroline Grey said...

LOL I'm a fan of that Lily Allen song (well, actually all Lily Allen songs.)

And I love that Dylan song as well. It does the very same things to me!

Julie said...

That is a damn nice post. I have found that the obviously kinky song Once In A Lifetime from Sarah Brightman resonates within me in a similar way:

Found a part of me
That's a mystery
That will be just once in a lifetime
When the moon is high
Passion never dies
Will you want me for all a lifetime

Sigh. Beautiful. Mushy, but beautiful. :P

MarQe said...

Truly, my favourite Dylan song !!!